View unanswered posts | View active topics It is currently Mon Aug 31, 2015 9:20 am

Reply to topic  [ 3 posts ] 
 Feeling Safe 
Author Message

Joined: Tue Aug 30, 2011 1:42 pm
Posts: 110
Post Feeling Safe
I was just wondering if anyone has been dealing with a loved one that never feels safe? I have moved my mother, in part because she keeps being asked to leave, through three assisted living facilities, one retirement community with home health care, my house, and from her original house - and she has never felt safe. She is now wanting very badly to move back in with me because she says that she doesn't feel safe. Thoughts on how to help someone who is having problems with their memory and who has some paranoia feel safe? She is really starting to presure me and she frequently threatens to leave the facility on her own if we don't take her seriously because she is in danger. She is convinced that people are planning to hurt her. If some of you have been through similar things I would love to hear about it and if you have any insights on strategies to implement, that would be great too.


Wed May 23, 2012 11:00 am

Joined: Wed Dec 30, 2009 1:46 pm
Posts: 3213
Location: WA
Post Re: Feeling Safe
I'm not sure moving her back would solve the problem. A few years ago, my husband went through a phase of paranoia and Capgras delusion where he sometimes believe me to be an impostor and that there were people [as many as twenty!] in the house who meant him harm. Just yesterday, in fact, I found an old notebook he kept in 2008 where he questioned what to do about 'the duplicate wife' and the 'unpaying guests'. Then, in 2009, he thought there were duplicate houses and he was always wanting me to take him to the other one. He moved from this phase and your mother probably will, too. Seroquel helped his hallucinations and anxiety tremendously.

Pat [68] married to Derek [84] for 38 years; husband dx PDD/LBD 2005, probably began 2002 or earlier; late stage and in a SNF as of January 2011. Hospitalized 11/2/2013 and discharged to home Hospice. Passed away at home on 11/9/2013.

Wed May 23, 2012 11:31 am

Joined: Sun Aug 29, 2010 5:46 pm
Posts: 610
Post Re: Feeling Safe
Some time ago when my mother was feeling very anxious in general, she expressed these kinds of concerns and wishes to go somewhere else. It seemed like not feeling safe had more to do with her awareness of her advancing illness than actually needing to leave. Her meds were adjusted so she started receiving something for anxiety and this really helped.


Wed May 23, 2012 12:42 pm
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Reply to topic   [ 3 posts ] 

You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
Powered by phpBB © 2000, 2002, 2005, 2007 phpBB Group.
Designed by STSoftware for PTF.
Localized by MaĆ«l Soucaze © 2010