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 Nursing Home / Care Facility Move? 
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Post Nursing Home / Care Facility Move?
For those of you who may have moved their loved one to a nursing home or other care facility --

1) Have you seen a change in their behavior, good or bad?

2) My Dad wanders and yells for my Mom, or sometimes stands in the hallway yelling while trying to "hold up the walls that are falling". Has this type of behavior decreased or increased in your loved one after their move?

3)Does your loved one have a room mate and has that helped or hindered him/her?

We're seriously looking at moving my Dad, much as we hate to, and I wonder what other folks have seen regarding symptoms and acting out following a move. Thanks for any responses!


Sun Oct 13, 2013 4:36 pm
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Post Re: Nursing Home / Care Facility Move?
My husband's behavior didn't change after placement. The first year and a half he had a private room but now has a roommate--a very sweet, quiet man. They don't converse as far as I know but neither has their proximity been a problem. I help take care of the roommate when I'm there, too.

Since my husband saw our house as 'not our house', anyway, the move seemed not to confuse him further. He thinks I live in the nursing home, too, but in a different room. :P

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Pat [68] married to Derek [84] for 38 years; husband dx PDD/LBD 2005, probably began 2002 or earlier; late stage and in a SNF as of January 2011. Hospitalized 11/2/2013 and discharged to home Hospice. Passed away at home on 11/9/2013.


Sun Oct 13, 2013 5:08 pm
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My dad became much less social when he moved to the ALF, but he had started becoming less social anyway about a year prior to moving as the disease was changing his personality. Moving can be very traumatic for people anyway, and having lived in one place for a long time, then the disease on top of that, it can make things worse for a while. If you are considering moving your dad, it wouldn't be wise, IMHO, to have the expectation that his behavior will improve. Generally people will place their LO because they physically and/or mentally can no longer provide the kind of care that the person needs. There may be safety issues, transfer issues, etc.

It may not be time to move your LO yet, but if you have facilities checked out and get his name on a wait list, that will be a help when the time comes. Then you won't have to make a move in a crisis without having time to gather data about which is the right place for him. Good luck, Lynn

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Sun Oct 13, 2013 8:37 pm
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Excellent advice, Lynn!

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Pat [68] married to Derek [84] for 38 years; husband dx PDD/LBD 2005, probably began 2002 or earlier; late stage and in a SNF as of January 2011. Hospitalized 11/2/2013 and discharged to home Hospice. Passed away at home on 11/9/2013.


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Post Re: Nursing Home / Care Facility Move?
Wow...I sent my mother to rehab at the best five stat facility I could find. It took a year to get in. It caused a rapid increase in hallucinations, delusions, etc. She was calling 911 every chance she got. She insisted on going to another facility which could not meet her needs as well We gave in because she was calling 911, and throwing horrific fits to get out constantly. Move her and she was even worse. Finally after a hospital admission, was put on Seroquel which helped....which no longer helps. Now on Zyprexa and is 100% confused....just came off Risperdal which was a BAD scene...she lost her memory on it...Now her Dr is saying it's a trade-off...you can't have it both ways....either a memory and "scared out of her wits with fearful delusions" OR no memory of "place". Uggh What a terrible position to be in. Her Dr. has recommended I now get her on waiting lists for skilled care since she is rapidly declining. She has become a 2 person assist and I don't know how much longer the AL can handle her.


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Post Re: Nursing Home / Care Facility Move?
It is a terrible position to be in! In my experience any kind of a change for anyone with mild dementia to LBD is traumatic and takes at least three months to adjust to a new situation. The move throws everything off.

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