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 Fear of getting in the car 
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Post Fear of getting in the car
My Mom has a fear of getting into the car. After her discharge from hospital when she was diagnosed in July, we had a doctor appointment 8 days later, where I had to ride with her in the back while my Dad drove. We had the child locks on, and all I can say is that it was the ride from Hell... I felt as if I was riding with a 2 year old child... Doctor advised me to give her 50 mg of seroquel for the ride home instead of the 25 mg I had given her on the way down. The ride was much better on the way home. Since that day, she is fearful of getting into the car and when asked why, she says she doesn't want to cause an accident.

Since that day, she went to CVS once with my Dad - very short drive and did fine. One day, she said she wanted to have her nails done and we couldn't move quickly enough to take her. Again another short drive. Both times she did great, but now refuses.

We ask her if she wants to go to the store with us, have her nails done again, and she flat out refuses. We have doctor appointment scheduled for her at the end of this month and we're trying to be as encouraging as we possibly can be. If we mention doctor appointment, she says she doesn't want to see any more doctors. She has an excuse for almost anything we say to her.

I'm posting to ask if anyone has experienced something similar in a loved one having a fear of a certain thing and how you were able to overcome it? Many thanks in advance.


Sat Sep 07, 2013 10:12 pm
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Post Re: Fear of getting in the car
Hi. My mother can a fear of bugs in the rug that lasted over a year I think. But that just kept her watching the rug and caused us to get a new one. Being fearful of getting in the car can be quite a complication! There will probably be days, like you've had, where your Mom is OK with the car and others where she is not. It sounds like the increased Seroquel the doctor recommended worked, so I think I'd use that when you need to take her somewhere like doctors appointments. Good luck!

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Sun Sep 08, 2013 1:19 pm
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Post Re: Fear of getting in the car
My dad didn't have a fear of going in the car, but a few months before he died he just didn't want to be out and about. Towards the end of life people become rather insular, and the outside world seems overwhelming and uncomfortable for them. I had to stop taking him on any "field trips" and then stop from even taking him for rides around the ALF in his wheelchair. He was more complacent being in his ALF room or the dining room, but that was it. Perhaps your mom is reaching that point? Lynn

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Wed Oct 02, 2013 9:19 am
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Post Re: Fear of getting in the car
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Mom was recently diagnosed in July of this year and Neuro described early LBD. The first followup visit back to the Neuro, who is in New York City about 1.5 hours away, was very very bad! I had to sit with her in the back seat with the child locks on and it was like being in the car with a toddler. When we got to the Neuro that day, he suggested 50 mg of Seroquel for the way home, which worked wonders. However, Mom actually remembers that ride and since then has this fear of getting in the car.

She had another Neuro followup just this week and I gave her the medication about 30 minutes before we were to leave. Dad and I both had to escort her to get into the car, but once in, it was a much better ride. We do not feel we can trust having her in the front seat, though, as she opened the door on a very short ride when stopped at a light.

She did venture out this week again with my Dad for a short run and it went fine. I think its been a good week! Prior to that I was trying to find out if there are any counselors that come to the home in cases such as these. I'm sure there are homebound people who receive counseling services; I just haven't been able to find such services near me. She does have a nurse with Home Care who comes once per week but that's to check her medically...


Fri Oct 04, 2013 8:49 pm
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Post Re: Fear of getting in the car
Dama - if you go to the regional area and post something there, you may find someone near where you live who might know of resources that can help you, or if you post here and let people know where you are that might help find someone who knows about resources in your area. Have you tried your local Area Agency on Aging? That is often a great pooling of resources so you don't have to try to reinvent a list of people/orgs. that may be of help. Lynn

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Fri Oct 04, 2013 9:07 pm
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