Janice, Frank has accused me of cheating for almost 3 yrs and I've tried to change the subject, remind him we've been married for 47 yr and it's always been him that I loved. It doesn't matter what approach I try, he's never going to believe me. I've tried reasoning, acting mad or hurt, and crying, he says I've asked for it and I have only myself to blame. Sooo, I don't bother anymore. He has been going to an Adult day program 2 days a week and I've been working one of the days and everyone knows not to mention my working around him because that's where one of my "boyfriends" work.
Some of my call are on my cell phone, but he does question some of the conversations, I'm not sure where he come up with some of the things he "thinks" he heard. Things are a little better,he use to check my arms for needle marks and check my nose because he said I was doing drugs, such an imagination!