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 How to talk to Love Ones About Diapers 
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Post How to talk to Love Ones About Diapers
What is the easiest way to convince your spouse it's time for diapers. This is a conversation I never thought I would have to have but my husbands Parkinson is getting worse and it would be easier on both of us if he wore diapers. We had a really rough week and I have hinted about it but he doesn't seem interested and do think he understands what I am saying. I am exhausted and really upset this weeks decline was really hard to take.
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Thu May 01, 2014 6:54 pm

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Post Re: How to talk to Love Ones About Diapers
OK, I am a LBD patient and I am very near to needing adult diapers. Excuse me, but this is a shitty topic! My point is, humor works best. One of my friend's fathers had Alzheimer's and had to have adult diapers. He called them "His thick pants." Because he was very skinny and sitting on benches hurt. But with the adult diapers, he was comfortable sitting on the bench, hence, thick pants. What ever works.

In my case, not worrying about an accident is enough. And, I have a skinny but, so maybe I will like my thick pants also. Try to keep your sense of humor!!

Thu May 01, 2014 7:18 pm

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Post Re: How to talk to Love Ones About Diapers
Thanks Donald so nice to get a personal reply from someone who understands on a personal level. I appreciate the humor and hope my husband will realize it will make his life easier.

Thu May 01, 2014 8:08 pm

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Post Re: How to talk to Love Ones About Diapers
Call them 'briefs'. :P

Pat [68] married to Derek [84] for 38 years; husband dx PDD/LBD 2005, probably began 2002 or earlier; late stage and in a SNF as of January 2011. Hospitalized 11/2/2013 and discharged to home Hospice. Passed away at home on 11/9/2013.

Fri May 02, 2014 5:18 pm

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Post Re: How to talk to Love Ones About Diapers
It's time for a relative of mine with Parkinson's to wear diapers too. It's either that or she has to be on and off the commode every 45 minutes or so. So far she'd rather do that than wear the diapers... but it doesn't leave time in the day for much else...

Gail, Forum Moderator & daughter of Doris who passed away Dec. 2010 after living with LBD for 7 years.

Fri May 02, 2014 11:39 pm

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Post Re: How to talk to Love Ones About Diapers
My husband was worried about having an accident in public. I bought the inserts, so he would still be wearing his underwear. Then I told him that it was better to be wearing a pad than have an accident, wouldn't it be night to not have to worry, and go to the bathroom constantly. I suggested he try them around the house, but he wouldn't. So I suggested he could wear them only when we were out and he should try them once. I told him that only he and I would know about the pads, but if he had an accident, a lot of people would know. So he agreed to give them a try, and that worked.

Then I suggested that he wear the inserts at night, because getting up in the middle of the night to change sheets was crazy. Eventually he was wearing them all day and night.

Eventually, the pads didn't hold it all. They would leak. So, I suggested that we try the "pull-ups." I bought some that look almost like underwear (colors and stripes). Then eventually just bought less expensive white ones.

This is a technique I have used for a lot of things, like starting to use caregivers. Discussing the options, and then suggesting that we give it a try. He doesn't feel like he is being forced, even though it is something I really want and at some point, he is not going to have a choice.

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