View unanswered posts | View active topics It is currently Mon Nov 24, 2014 12:28 pm



Reply to topic  [ 5 posts ] 
 Retirement 
Author Message

Joined: Fri Dec 31, 2010 3:07 pm
Posts: 1039
Location: Minnesota
Post Retirement
Alas, I will not be able to retire from paying work in the foreseeable future. My retirement funds were drastically reduced the first years of caring for Coy, and I also couldn't work that first year.

Except for a few youngsters, all my friends are retired. My cousins are retired. My college classmates are retired. BooHoo, I guess I'd throw a pity party but everyone has more interesting things to do than to come.

So ... I've decided to retire from the kitchen. More and more I've been using frozen entrees, deli selections, and take-out from restaurants. I've felt slightly guilty. I've decided more prepared food, no more guilt! I do enjoy cooking (but not pot scrubbing or dishwashing) so I'll still do it when I feel like, or when I get a craving for homemade meals, but it is no longer one of my many jobs -- it is just something I'll do when the mood strikes.

Ah, retirement does feel good! (And if I do throw a pity party, I'll have it catered.)

_________________
Jeanne, 68 cared for husband Coy, 86. RBD for 30+ years; LDB since 2003, Coy at home, in early stage, until death in 2012


Thu Jul 14, 2011 12:45 am
Profile

Joined: Sun Oct 21, 2007 4:18 pm
Posts: 835
Location: Acton, MA
Post Re: Retirement
Jeanne, Good for you!! I still make most of our meals but I do order an occasional pizza. Frank lost his interest in eating, most of the time, so I cook and then end up throwing it out. I hate to waste but I can only eat so many left overs. Now that all the local produce is available our meals have been simplified, sliced tomatoes, cucs and corn, small piece of meat that's it. My youngest daughter hates to cook so she comes out a couple times a week and with her husband on weekends, so at least I can cook and someone will eat it.

Other's have a cleaning person, another way for you to "retire".

Take care,
Gerry

_________________
Gerry 67, cared for Frank 71, married 49 yrs; dx 2004, passed away October 26, 2011.


Thu Jul 14, 2011 6:57 am
Profile

Joined: Tue Dec 29, 2009 2:28 pm
Posts: 464
Location: Minnesota
Post Re: Retirement
I did the same thing, Jeanne, while Mom was at home. Working full time and coming home to take care of Mom was just too much. When it started to take too much time, often interrupted, to care for Mom, I started using frozen foods and take-out. I did find that throwing some unmarinated chicken, even frozen chicken, was also quick. Nuking some frozen veggies and 90-second rice was also good. The toughest part of that meal was to slice the cooked meat to make it easier for Mom to eat. (I had to do the same to mine or she'd get mad at me for treating her like she needed the help.) :lol:

I think that the only way you can work full time and be a primary caregiver is to take advantage of any convenience that makes life easier!

Hang in there.

Kate

_________________
Kate [i](Cared for Mom for years before anyone else noticed the symptoms, but the last year of her life was rough and we needed to place her in an SNF, where she passed in February 2012)[/i]


Thu Jul 14, 2011 1:42 pm
Profile

Joined: Tue Dec 29, 2009 2:28 pm
Posts: 464
Location: Minnesota
Post Re: Retirement
Throwing the chicken in the oven, I mean. :oops:

Kate

_________________
Kate [i](Cared for Mom for years before anyone else noticed the symptoms, but the last year of her life was rough and we needed to place her in an SNF, where she passed in February 2012)[/i]


Thu Jul 14, 2011 1:43 pm
Profile

Joined: Fri Jan 15, 2010 9:33 pm
Posts: 3430
Location: Vermont
Post Re: Retirement
I wondered at whom/what you were throwing that chicken Kate! LOL

_________________
Lynn, daughter of 89 year old dad dx with possiblity of LBD, CBD, PSP, FTD, ALS, Vascular Dementia, AD, etc., died Nov. 30, 2010 after living in ALF for 18 months.


Thu Jul 14, 2011 7:47 pm
Profile
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Reply to topic   [ 5 posts ] 

You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
Powered by phpBB © 2000, 2002, 2005, 2007 phpBB Group.
Designed by STSoftware for PTF.
Localized by MaĆ«l Soucaze © 2010 phpBB.fr