I can't say enough good things about my husband. He's always known I have a very strong bond with my grandfather, and he's always been very understanding and supportive.
He's getting a bit frustrated though now because things aren't up to par as far as housekeeping and laundry service. Sometimes I snap back that if the maid service is so bad, he should just fire the maid
I'd love a day off!
Mostly though he's been taking on extra responsibilities with the kids, he always did their bedtime, and he still does. Last night he even went so far to give my little one her nebulizer which she hates. So he's great. He still complains though and that is really hard to hear.
My girls love having "dada" around. Especially the little one who isn't in school every day. Dada is her buddy. They walk about the same speed
Neither one can understand the other but they talk back and forth all day (when he's awake that is) and she loves being able to wake him up in the morning.
There are times though that like today, his aide called in sick, my sister is visiting and I'd love to be able to go someplace fun with the two of them but since someone has to be here to give him lunch, then I can't leave. It's really hard some days, and so very few people understand.
He won't commit to staying here in the south and wants to go back home to MA when he can, which right now i told him would be mid-june, due to a couple of doctor appointments and I'm waiting until my oldest is out of school. So a home is kind of out since by the time I get him placed, we may be leaving. I feel like packing him up for a week or two is ridiculous to go to respite care...so I guess we'll be hiring a helper.
It sometimes is hard to decide what kind of care he really needs - some days its a house sitter because he's sleeping, others we need a full maid, some just a PCA to give him a shower and help him dress. I still cant figure how to pay for it all yet, so I'm only hiring the bare minimum HE can afford. We can't afford to pay for any of it unfortunately, or I'd have someone living in, just to tend to him (that would be heavenly!).
My sister is here, she's not used to caring for him. Besides carrying his tray up and sitting with him at breakfast, she isnt comfortable doing much more.