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 MY FIL IS FINALLY AT PEACE 
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Hi all, I had a phone call late last night at 11.30pm to tell me that my FIL had died peacefully at 10.15pm.

Myself and my husband had seen him the previous evening, I knew when I saw him that the time was close. I rubbed his forehead and we talked to him about being a good father, thanking him for things he had done for us, telling him that we loved him and that we were going to miss him. I told him that we knew it was nearly time for him, and said that he was free to go if he wanted to, told him we would be ok and look after each other. We told him not to be frightened, just relax and think of all the people who he would be meeting up with soon. Im so pleased we went that night, he couldnt respond to us by talking, his eyes moved and when my husband thanked him for being a good dad, my FIL, im sure tried to smile. I get great comfort from the fact that I am sure he knew it was us and that he could hear what we were saying to him. It was a very emotional goodbye, but I knew this was going to be the last time we saw him.

The nursing staff at the hospital were wonderful, made sure that my FIL was comfortable all the time, we was being turned every 2 hours as he had developed bed sores. Though he wasnt eating anything, they gave him water to sip and used mouth swabs to keep his mouth nice.

I would like to thank everyone on the forum for the advice and support you have given me, at times you guys were the only ones I could talk to. I leave you with best wishes for your own situations with your LO's. Love Lee xx


Sun May 01, 2011 1:21 am
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I am so sorry for your loss, Lee. I am glad you had the opportunity to say a meaningful goodbye, and that the end was peaceful. Thanks for sharing that with us.

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Sun May 01, 2011 2:13 am
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Lee, I'm sure that you and your husband are also at peace with the passing of your FIL. He must have loved you as a daughter.
Take care,
Gerry

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Gerry 67, cared for Frank 71, married 49 yrs; dx 2004, passed away October 26, 2011.


Sun May 01, 2011 8:34 am
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So sorry for your loss. It's tough to give up a loved one, but you know he is in a happier place now.

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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family today. God bless you!

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Pat [68] married to Derek [84] for 38 years; husband dx PDD/LBD 2005, probably began 2002 or earlier; late stage and in a SNF as of January 2011. Hospitalized 11/2/2013 and discharged to home Hospice. Passed away at home on 11/9/2013.


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My sincere condolences to you all. God Bless, and may he now take care of ye from the better place he is in, as ye took care of him here. You will be in my thoughts and prayers,
Ger xxx

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Sun May 01, 2011 10:22 am
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Lee - thanks for letting us know. It is comforting to know you spent some of his final hours with him and he is no longer suffering. I'm sure you will miss him a lot, just like I miss my dad a lot too. It is hard but knowing they are no longer suffering gives some relief to the pain of losing a LO. Take care, Lynn

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Sun May 01, 2011 1:36 pm
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Lee,
My condolences to you, your husband, and family on your loss. I'm glad your FIL's passing was peaceful.
Robin


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Lee,
My sympathy to both you and your husband, thankfully your FIL's passing was peaceful and now you know he no longer suffers !
I wish you well and I am glad you found comfort during your need in the forums!

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Thanks for all your kind replies x


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I am late in replying, but please accept my sympathy on the loss for your FIL. You have all fought the good fight by his side. Take care of yourselves now. Nan


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Lee, so sorry about your FIL..so glad the journey is done.

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