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missmamamoon wrote:
Does anyone here deal with repeated (and frustrating) hallucinations and if so, how do you maintain your calm?
I'm not sure I always 'maintained my calm' but my late husband had constant hallucinations and delusions for four months prior to his death. Since they became such a regular part of our lives, I found many ways to deal with them.

At the beginning, I made a long list of things that he believed were true and were not. I'm not sure it made any difference. We did not have basketball players in our guest rooms. There was no leper colony near our house. Employees were not still working after 5 pm and he did not need to tell them to leave.

One thing is certain. Delusions and hallucinations will not just go away and there is no medicine that will cure them. All you can do is listen and respond with as few words as possible. I attempted to continue to tell him that I loved him.

Leone Carroll (75); wife of Dale (75) who passed away March 23, 2011

Mon Apr 04, 2011 1:54 pm

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Gerry wrote:
Frank thinks someone is taking or has taken our car or truck, I'll show him they are in the driveway. He goes outside 8-10 times to check, I keep the doors locked but he still checks. I get frustrated when he wants me to go out and check or to call the police, I know it's very real to him, so I try to show him they ARE THERE and he can no longer dial the phone so I no longer worry about that. They say re-direct, but that doesn't work here.

Gerry, I'm going to play devil's advocate here. I don't really believe that it is always best to become a partner in our LO's delusions or that redirection is always possible. But let's just play "what if" for a minute. What if you agreed with him? What if you said, "Oh, the car is gone because Betty's broke down and she had an urgent errand so I let her borrow it." or "The truck is in the shop getting the muffler fixed." He is certain it is gone, so how about reassuring him there is a logical explanation and that it will be back? Or even playing along more thoroughly? "Oh dear! I thought I saw it in the driveway. If it is really gone perhaps I should call the police." Then dial the weather number and report the car missing. Assure him that they will be on the lookout for it. Or even tell him that they found it and will be returning it soon.

Since logical proof that it is still in the driveway doesn't convince him, might it be worth trying one of these approaches? If you decide to, do report back the results!

Jeanne, 68 cared for husband Coy, 86. RBD for 30+ years; LDB since 2003, Coy at home, in early stage, until death in 2012

Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:24 pm

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JeanneG, I will try it, might be interesting. This morning he's been up since 3:00AM, he wants to go home. He keeps asking if I'm ready to go. He usually gets tired after a few hours and will sleep for an hour or so. I had to cancell his massage for this morning because he doesn't understand directions on good days so without enough sleep it's impossible. We have to move him on the table, he isn't able to change positions, or doesn't understand what we're asking, he's only 155 but it's dead weight.

I'll let you know how your suggestion works.

Thank you,

Gerry 67, cared for Frank 71, married 49 yrs; dx 2004, passed away October 26, 2011.

Tue Apr 05, 2011 5:55 am
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