Family visits--who are these people?
I also posted this in the caring spouses forum but thought I'd throw it out here, too. Anyone else have similar issues with sorting out family?
Yesterday, Derek's son and DIL called and said they were coming by to visit on
their way home from the beach so I invited them to dinner. When I told Derek
they were coming [he hadn't seen Paul for a couple of months] he didn't know
whom I was talking about and I showed him their pictures. He wanted me to write
down their names, as well as the names of their children, so I did. He was
studying these 'notes' all afternoon and I know he's was so worried about not
We had a wonderful visit. After they left, Derek remarked, "He kept calling me
Dad. Why is that?" I said, "Because Paul is your son". "Oh...I guess I
thought....." I don't know what he thought. Maybe that they were MY kids or
that Paul was his grandson, not his son, or whatever. Maybe more frequent
visits would help. They are both extraordinarily busy people, so I understand.
Derek was so exhausted after the visit that I almost couldn't get him into bed.
But it was worth it.
AND, Paul's wife, Diana, who is a neurosurgeon, has recommended an 'excellent'
neurologist for Derek after I told her he was really unhappy with the last one.
She said to mention her name and they will fit him in.